Ephesians 4:31 – 4:32

friendship 2018

Ephesians chapter 4 verses 31 and 32.

31 Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and clamour, and evil speaking, be put away from you, with all malice

32 And be ye kind one to another, tender-hearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you.

Recently I have seen two Christian gentlemen end a long friendship over a simple misunderstanding. Both men are stubborn and I have known them both for years. It just does not make sense to me as to how two people who do need to talk to each other on the basis of encouraging each other as only people who love the LORD can.

This new post is to show you that no one is perfect and those who think Christians are, you are very wrong. We are in the flesh as well as the rest of mankind. Those of us who seek after the LORD, love the LORD and have a communication with the LORD still will make mistakes in life . We need JESUS as the rest of all mankind does.

Those that hate the LORD and want nothing to do with HIM will always say mean things about people of faith to try to bring us down a notch or two to proudly say “See, I told you they were like that!” The evil hearted seek to destroy us at any given time for any reason. They will twist things/words around , or lie so as to turn those who see what we go through maybe discouraged into following JESUS. We should not do this to other true GOD fearing Christians.

My point is if you love JESUS you will take the time to see what the cause of the misunderstanding is. Not to sit back and point the finger. I have seen people get angry over things as simple as when you THINK a person sees you in a crowd or group setting and they should speak first. Do you always wait to see the person you know speak first? How do you KNOW for sure if they saw you and are just ignoring you? Have they done this sort of thing to you before or more than once? Think about it. If they have not then are you getting angry with them over something that is uncalled for?

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Why wait for people to speak first? They maybe going through something that you may not see because you are thinking about yourself right now. And this is the point I am trying to make with this post.

When you have been a friend and a good friend with someone, and they are not being themselves then something is wrong. Take the time to figure it out. Sometimes it take prayer to gain the wisdom we need to see whats going on. Put the pride aside and seek GOD for answers. Don’t use the Bible as a tool to insult or control people in a harsh way. You will not gain your friend’s attention that way especially if they are going through a “trial” already. You know all well and good , we all will have our trials and tests of faith. You do not need to add to it.




No one wants to be called names or accuse of anything they are not doing. Remember who is GOD and who will be passing judgement when the time comes. This will be done for all mankind. Those of us who do love the LORD and those who don’t. I would hate to see anyone who was blamed for anything they did not do. Friends confront each other face to face. This is Biblical.

Matthew 5:21-24 (ESV)

“You have heard that it was said to those of old, ‘You shall not murder; and whoever murders will be liable to judgment.’ 22 But I say to you that everyone who is angry with his brother will be liable to   judgment; whoever insults his brother will be liable to the council; and whoever says, ‘You fool!’ will be liable to the hell of fire. 23 So if you are offering your gift at the altar and there remember that your brother has something against you, 24 leave your gift there before the altar and go. First be reconciled to your brother, and then come and offer your gift.

As fellow believers in Christ, we have become brothers and sisters in the family God and fellow members of the body of Christ. We are individual members, yet we are one in Christ.

It is hard to not be angry with a person until you give it to the LORD for HIM to help. It is impossible to be able to handle a hurt by your self. It is the sin that made you angry, not the person themselves. Because they have judged you falsely which is not a good thing, then hurt you as well by the actions they did. Be it verbally or whatever. That’s like the expression throwing the bathed baby out with the bath water.

Ending a friendship is never a happy experience at all. But you sometimes need to when you clash with those not of the body of Christ. This site at “Beyond today” will get more into this at this link.


I even looked up friendship on Wikipedia too. This is something to think about before you cancel out someone.


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Picture is from : http://www.poccc.org/ministries/life-builders/men-of-honor-ministry/


I know when I head off to work there is a spiritual clash/warfare going on in there. Friendship is made with “birds of a feather and they flock together.” Instead of all of us adult people aiming to be polite and get our work done for the company there are people there who do not love GOD or HIS people and can sense us as soon as we walk into a room. We seem to spoil their day by being there to earn a living. Sad.

Keep your faith and allow your friend a chance to open up to you. For if you have known them for years, like 10 or more there is some there that you don’t see for some reason you are over looking. If they have never ever done them wrong do not do this person wrong either. The Bible speaks about conflict. Here are some verses on the seriousness of it. You can click on the link here. Have your Bible with you. There is a full-page of scripture here on “Bible online”


This year 2018 is just whizzing on by, and we do not know when JESUS will return to earth to take all of us who are in the BODY of CHRIST home to be with HIM. I tell you this is where we want to be away from all of the nonsense of this world. Why add to a persons trials by NOT doing the work of the LORD?

Prayer really does heal all things because only GOD can fix it. HE knows how we work and will make a way, HE always has for me and all of my loved ones as well. GOD will for you as well. Just leave it with GOD, don’t meddle in it, trust GOD. Trust GOD. Trust GOD, and trust GOD again staying in your trust in GOD! Your friendship will be when and if GOD sees fit.



May you all get s blessing from the reading and the sharing of this post and the other posts here. I do pray that you all will be well and what ever is burdening you to leave it with the LORD.







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